I don’t
know you, but I can assume you are a flawed individual. We are all flawed
in some way. I am most certainly flawed
and can point out a few flaws, but those who know me can point out quite a few
more. Why are we so blinded to our own flaws? Jesus touches on this when he
talks about sin and how we should remove the plank out of our eye before
confronting someone else about the speck in theirs. And it is true. We could
have a major, glaring flaw and not even notice it or think it is worth removal,
but someone else could have a minor flaw and we will stop at nothing until that
speck is gone.
I see this
in the workplace; people giving other people “helpful” advice that they
themselves won’t even try. And I most certainly see it in my marriage. I could
tell you every flaw that my husband has. Some of them you would agree with and
some you may not think are even that big of a deal, but they are flaws none the
less.
It is so
difficult to see our own flaws, much like it is difficult to see the other side
of an argument. Many people claim to be open minded and they are until you have
a discussion or debate with them. All of a sudden it is their way or no way. My
husband will bring this up when we argue. He will tell me that I feel I am
always right, but who doesn’t think they are right? Would you believe something
you thought was wrong? All of our confidence could be based on lies, but we
will have the confidence as long as we believe those lies. If we didn’t think
we were right we would believe something else and then we would think we were
right.
As you can
tell by my blog, one of my flaws is rambling. I can ramble on about nothing and
can speak rather quickly when nervous. I notice it when I am nervous, but I don’t
see it most of the time. My husband points it out, but sometimes I wonder if I
really do it. Do I ramble that much in conversation? I don’t notice it, but he
does. Does anyone else? I hope not, but then I start to wonder if I ramble in
interviews. Is it that flaw that prevents me from getting a job? Am I being sabotaged
by a flaw I can’t even see?
Sometimes I
feel we are lucky we can’t see out flaws. I think we are happier and less self
conscious because of our ignorance. I hate it when my husband points out my
flaws because it affects the way I think, talk, and act. I worry that others
are thinking, “Man, I wish this girl would shut up.” And I’m sure my comments
to him leave him feeling in a similar way. So while I believe it is kind of
nice to be blinded to our flaws, I sometimes wish it was easier to see our flaws
and more difficult to see the flaws of others. I think we would be nicer people
because we would be able to embrace our imperfections and forgive the
imperfections of others.
However,
this is not life. In life we tend to ignore or excuse our flaws while wanting
to place a spotlight on the flaws of others. I think we need to just focus on
ourselves. We should take Jesus’ advice and fix our flaws and just ignore those
of others. We know how badly it hurts to have someone point out our flaws; do
we really want to do that to others? I try to believe I have tact, but tact
does not entirely change the affect the comments many have.